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Tuesday, June 8, 2010

A Rightness

Today we are continuing our dive into the deep waters of marriage and our role as the just right wife for our husbands. If you missed yesterday's post you can click here to read it before continuing.

So now, let's go deeper shall we.

When you study out what God has to say about marriage there is one word that just seems to trip us women up every time... submission.

Ephesians 5:22 tells us, Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  Now before you go off the deep end on this one and change your web browser to something more light you have to understand that yes, we submit to our husbands, but he too has to submit and answer to God for the way he leads us.

And we will answer to God for the way we follow.

God is a God of order. When things are going crazy in a court room, a judge strikes his gavel on the bench to bring a sound of authority and yells out what?  Order in the court!!  Why?  When things are out of order, chaos will ensue.

Look at life, nature, our government, your job; everything has an order to it.  It is no different in our homes.  There must be structure or there will be chaos. 

So what does it mean to submit?  It just simply means you are placing yourself under the authority of your husband.

And God never tells the husbands to take advantage of their position. In fact, He says in Ephesians 5:24 quite the opposite; Husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her.

Ladies, nothing will make his job to love you any easier than when you honor him by submitting to the authority that GOD has placed him in.

In the book Under the Mercy, the author recounts a story of four women who knew they were the heads in their marriage.  But through the study of the Word they learned that the husband was to be the head and they were to submit to his authority. They were not sure they wanted to place themselves in that position, but they also knew they had to do what the Word was instructing them.

They later shared that as the husbands had taken their rightful positions, they all felt their marriage had grown to a new depth of happiness.  It now possessed a joy they had never known before.

A Rightness.

As they pondered their new positions, they realized that their husbands had never demanded and would never demand the headship; it could only be a gift from the wife to the husband.

If this whole concept is a struggle for you let me give you another perspective. Let's look at Ephesians 5:22 again, Wives, submit to your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

When you understand you are ultimately submitting to God, your struggle will slowly begin to fade away.  You see, your submission has nothing to do with your husband, how deserving he is or is not.  It has everything to do with your relationship with the Lord and how deserving He is.

God instituted submission, commanded it, and is the one who gives you the strength to walk it out and it is He that is honored when we do this.

This call is a great and selfless calling, therefore it is going to take a great and selfless woman to do it! 

Homework for tonight: Take a realistic look at your relationship with your husband, are there any times where you are not fully submitted to him?  And why do you feel you struggle with submitting in all areas?

I would love to hear your answers.  You can click on comments below to leave them and please feel free to do so anonymously if it would make you feel more comfortable.

I love you all and pray for your marriages.  If you feel yours is not where it could be, take this week of blogs and let the Word penetrate your heart.  Nothing will ever change around you until something first changes within you.

1 comment:

Pat Johns said...

Good instruction from the Word Tina......learned this lesson many years ago, thank God......I would not be celebrating fifty years of marriage this year had I not read and heeded the voice of God.....

Just this week a mother was sharing with me the struggles she is having with a strong willed husband and father.....she feels he is too strict with her sons....I advised her to let the boys know dad is head of the home and must be obeyed.....when they marry they can head up their own home.....she had been siding with her son and it was causing major marital problems for them....

I didn't always agree with every decision Ray made but I always voiced them in private and not in front of the children....

When we are honest hearted and follow the word and pray, God will supply the grace and our families will be the better for it.......