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Friday, September 3, 2010

Date Night

Yesterday afternoon I received a phone call from my hubs asking me out on a date.  My heart actually skipped a beat... seriously.

He was asking me to still away for a few hours for some Mark-and-Tina-time. 

Now, if you know us well, you know that we are pretty much together 24/7.  We work together, commute together and have almost every meal together.  So you would think we get in plenty of time together.

But do you know your life can be spent daily with someone and not be in tune with them? The static of life can easily interfere and we become unable to dial into the heart of those we once desired to spend time with more than anyone else.  

To keep your relationships strong it requires a conscience effort to cultivate them and remove all distractions in order to focus solely on each other.

Being in ministry, I see way too often what happens when a couple's focus shifts to other things in life.  And how easily they can shift, I know. 

The Bible reminds us, Turn back! Recover your dear early love. No time to waste... (Revelation 2)

God is speaking to the church at Ephesus.  Verses 2-3 says, I see what you've done, your hard, hard work, your refusal to quit. I know you can't stomach evil, that you weed out apostolic pretenders. I know your persistence, your courage in my cause, that you never wear out.

They were so busy doing good for God that they forgot to cultivate their love and relationship with God.  

But I love that it may be late, but it is never too late to, Turn back! Recover your dear early love. No time to waste...

No matter where your marriage is right now, it is never not too late to have the one you always dreamed of.  It will require you setting some time a side, though, removing the static of life, and doing those first works over again... and a date night is a great place to start!

I have a great book that has helped me that I would love to give to one of you called For Women Only, What you need to know about the inner lives of men, by Shaunti Feldhahn.













Please leave your name in the comment section below along with some thoughts or advice on how to recover your dear early love and  I will draw from those names and announce the winner on Monday. 

Happy Friday!!

8 comments:

Monique Barr said...

Awesome read once again. I do not remember the last time we had a date night. Glad you had fun, I know you did. Love you guys

Kristen Davis said...

I needed to be reminded of that today... thanks! Having a 3 year old, working full-time, being involved in various outside activities can shift your views for sure. Date nights are a cherished thing, and I think we will have one tonight!

Love the Blog! Love that I hear a good Word and a little bit of home every time I read it.

:~)

pat Johns said...

Don't put my name in for the drawing Tina....just wanted to say how great it is that you and Mark have discovered that "togetherness" is more than just being "together" all the time......love you both soooo much.....pray for you every day.....excited about what God is doing in and thru you and looking forward to "ground breaking" day at CCA......

Savanna Hartman said...

I have only been married for about a year :) so I don't really know how to recover a dear early love but I do know that Matt and I make several efforts to keep from losing an early love so that we will (hopefully) never have a need to recover it. Each Tuesday night we separate ourselves from every responsibility we have daily--from those of ministry, to personal, to work--anything we can separate ourselves from, we do. Whether we end up staying home and doing nothing or going to a movie or even going out of town for a few hours and do something extravagant, we don't ever make plans that night so we can have time together and not lose the special time and moments to have the opportunites to grow as a couple and grow in love. So...I can't really offer any advice to anyone long and married, but to any engaged newlyweds who pass by, rememeber to make time for you and only you together and don't let your relationship be put on the back burner, because after your relationship with God, it is the most important. :)

Thank you for your wise and encouraging words Pastor Tina. It refreshes my spirit to read each thing you post (except your recipes...those just refresh my belly hehe).

Melanie said...

I love my husband now more than ever...even in the early days of love. Having watched him so tenderly care for our youngest son, Andrew (12), while going through brain cancer, I fell in love with my man all over again.
Our son is in Heaven now and I often think how no one loves our children like WE do...and even God has the capacity to love them more.
A shared love...a shared "mission" often draws husband and wife together in a way they may have never known.

Unreasonable Grace said...

Right on target, Tina. We were spending time alone just chatting about nothing this afternoon, and the thought crossed my mind that I need to really savor every moment with Craig because life is but a vapor. And because he deserves it.

Anonymous said...

Tina,

Your blogs are always spot on and so enjoyable! With work, school, church, sports, and just life in general its all to easy to walk along through life and not cultivate our relationships...and the relationship which takes the most neglect are usually the ones with our spouses. Thank you for reminding me to just take the time!!

Love ya sister!
Amanda Wiggins

Anonymous said...

Tina,

Your blogs are always spot on and so enjoyable! With work, school, church, sports, and just life in general its all to easy to walk along through life and not cultivate our relationships...and the relationship which takes the most neglect are usually the ones with our spouses. Thank you for reminding me to just take the time!!

Love ya sister!
Amanda Wiggins