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Friday, January 28, 2011

The Missional Mom

For some crazy reason over the past few weeks I have really been processing this thought, "Oh how I would raise my kids so differently if I had the chance to do it all over again."

Tyler will turn 20 and Chrissy will turn 18 this year.  I can't even comprehend that.  I was 17 when I got married and 18 when I had Tyler so they are already at the age I was when I threw myself into adulthood topping it off with wifehood and motherhood. All at the ripe old age of 18!

When I was in school, not so long ago I might add, researching for a paper meant that you would have to go to the library, dig through countless books for the info you needed, then dig through your purse for a dime so you could copy that one page enabling you to take it home where you would write out BY HAND your paper.

Computers are not cheap but the ease in life they and the Internet afford can not have a price tag placed on them.

I say all this to say that if I was raising my kids now, the wealth of information out there and the ease of obtaining it would for sure have changed the way I raised my little (well, now big) darlings.

Please don't misunderstand, I raised them the best I could.  As my parents did me.  And your parents did you.  I turned out ok. You turned out ok.  And I know my kids will turn out ok.  

But as I told my son the other day, I don't care how well he may think we raised him, as a parent you will always think you could have done better.

Anyway, my point in all this is to say, yes, if I was raising my kids today, there are so many great insights out there into raising Godly, missional kids that I for sure would add a few more things to my instructional repertoire. 

And here is one of the them... The Missional Mom by Helen Lee.  Like I said, getting great information is only a matter of a few clicks on a keyboard and this book came to me because of a weekly newsletter I subscribe to at ChristianityToday.com.

I have not been able to put this book down, and my kids are already almost grown and gone.  But the truths, insight and great ideas are so rich that I will for sure use them to help other moms, and one day the moms of my grandchildren.  (Oh dear, am I really getting that old?  Yeah, I didn't think so either.)

So if you are a mom who truly wants to raise children with a Godly vision for their life, then this is a must read.

And for those of you planning on starting a fam soon, don't be surprised if this book shows up on your doorstep in the near future compliments of Aunt Tina. (smiles)

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Not Guilty

I'm sick.


Three days after returning from our amazing pilgrimage to the Holy Land I started feeling my chest get congested. And for the next four days I had the typical cough and runny nose.

But then came Wednesday... the day I realized I had a full blown case of the flu.  I felt like, well, let's just say I felt BAD.

I was home alone all day, feeling really bad, and seeing all the things in my home that needed to get done but I had neither the drive or energy to do them.

I wanted someone to come home and do nothing but take care me.  Love me.  Prepare dinner for me.  And share my affliction with me.

Me. Me. Me. Blah. Blah. Blah.

But instead yesterday afternoon my son came home from work and shared with me that the branch of military he's researching just informed him they do not recognize the high school he graduated from...

My daughter was texting asking to come home from something we place a high importance on...

And to top it off I'm feeling sicker by the moment.

But what was making me feel even worse was the way I was internalizing my kids "issues" and allowing them to make me feel like a failure.

I chose the school for my kids.

I place a high importance on the event my daughter was asking to come home from.

So today I have had to realize that life is not all about ME.

The fact that that particular branch does not recognize my son's diploma may be God shutting that door.  The other branches do recognize it.

My daughter's life is not mine. She is not going to agree with me about everything and is not suppose to.

And today, my new meds seem to be working and I plan to get to those things I couldn't yesterday.

So if you are feeling yucky today... or a little guilty over things out of your control, don't.

If you are a Christ follower, and you truly seek Him first in all things, then know that He's got all things under control.

And what may seem to be your surprise is usually His plan.

So today let's take Romans 8:1-2 to heart...

There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.  For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free... (AKJV)

If Christ broke the chains of guilt in our lives, then let's not be the ones to shackle ourselves all over again.

The free never ever need to feel guilty.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

He's Still Alive

While on our trip to Israel I was able to shoot this. 

Hope it blesses you.

If I could add one more thing it would be this... And He will never leave you nor forsake you!!