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Monday, June 13, 2011

Answer Number 2

What does your husband need from you?

Answer number 2…

Respect

How do you show him respect?  By appreciating him. Being considerate of his needs, all his needs. Being courteous, honoring, and adoring toward him. And by making him feel special.

Another little secret... he needs to feel special too.  :)

Let him know he is.

Another great way to respect your husband is to never criticize him before friends, relatives, or anyone. Criticizing husbands is often a popular coffee-time subject for girlfriends, but you must resist any pressure to join in. It is much better for our husbands to hear our praise second-hand instead of repeated criticism.

Also, respect him enough to never criticize him in front of your children. When you do this, over time you will destroy your kids respect for him and for you. Abolish any comments such as: Never on time, just like your father, or Wasting money again; what did your dad buy now?

Remember that in many ways it is the wife who sets the emotional tone of the home. Children and husbands pick up a critical spirit quickly and use it in self defense on each other. This judgmental attitude firmly closes the door to mutual warmth and love. The healing ointment of praise mixed with appreciation heals and encourages healthy, emotionally stable feelings.

Another way to show respect that I learned over the years is by asking my husband things instead of telling him things. When I was a stay-at-home mom, many times my husband would come home from a long hard day at the office and I would tell him, We’re going over to my parents for dinner.

I never once stopped to consider the fact that he had been away from home all day (I on the other hand have been cooped up all day with two kids) and maybe, just maybe, he has been dreaming all day of just coming home and relaxing, not loading up and heading out the door again… with two kids in tow.

Of course my mom is a great cook so he was always happy to go. But it showed him honor and respect when I started asking him if he wanted to go instead of telling him.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to him and you'll be well on your way to a happy, well balanced home... and marriage.



1 comment:

Monique Barr said...

Thanks for posting. This was a great read once again.