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Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Answer Number 4

What does your husband need from you?

Answer number 4...

To Protect Him

And a big way to protect your husband is by doing the things stated in Answers 1-3, Build him and believe in him, Respect him, and Be his wife not his mom.

Because if you aren’t the enemy will send someone to him who will.

There’s something so amazing that God has given us women, it’s called an intuition. Let me give you a great illustration of this.

Brian invited his mother over for dinner. During the course of the meal, Brian's mother couldn't help but notice how beautiful her son’s roommate, Jennifer, was. She had long been suspicious of the relationship between Brian and Jennifer, and this had only made her more curious.

Over the course of the evening, while watching the two interact, she started to wonder if there was more between the roommates than met the eye.

Reading his mom's thoughts, Brian volunteered, “I know what you must be thinking, but I assure you Jennifer and I are just roommates.”

About a week later, Jennifer came to Brian saying, “Ever since your mother came to dinner, I've been unable to find my beautiful gravy ladle. You don't suppose she took it, do you?”

Brian said, “Well, I doubt it, but I'll send her an e-mail just to be sure.”

So he sat down and wrote:

Dear Mom,

I'm not saying that you 'did' take the gravy ladle from the house, I'm not saying that you 'did not' take the gravy ladle. But the fact remains that one has been missing ever since you were here for dinner.

Love, Brian

Several days later, Brian received an email back from his mother that read:

Dear Son,

I'm not saying that you 'do' sleep with Jennifer, I'm not saying that you 'do not' sleep with Jennifer. But the fact remains that if Jennifer is sleeping in her own bed, she would have found the gravy ladle by now.

Love, Mom

As a woman we just know things that are not known. And when you sense something in your husband’s life that just doesn’t seem quite right, address it with him, immediately.

Not in a motherly I’m-getting-on-to-you and your-crazy-for-not-seeing-this-too kind of way. But in a wifely I-feel-something’s-not-quite-right-about-this-situation and I-want-to-protect-us kind of way.

Maybe his job just seems to be pulling him away from the family, friends, church and God.

Or maybe he has a lifelong friend who he loves to hang out with but when he comes home he’s very negative and judgmental for a few days.

Maybe it’s a woman who seems to be hanging around more than normal and although your husband can’t see through it, you can.

When you see an area in his life where the enemy is trying to get in, you need to bring it to his attention… and don’t wait. If you do it could be too late.

For years I didn’t bring some things to my hubs attention because I didn’t want to look jealous, obsessive, or like I was making a bigger deal of something than it really was.

Today, I don’t care what I look like.

I care more about my marriage and my family then me looking crazy. So I am quick to say when I feel something’s not quite right here.

You may question, Well, what if I end up being wrong?  But I say, What if you end up being right?  You just saved yourself and your family a lot of heartache.

Please don’t take this and all of the sudden become the police in your marriage. That will drive him away from you fast.

Just be aware the enemy is out there and when he comes to attack he does not come waving a red flag yelling, OK. I’m here and I have come to wreak havoc in your home!

No he comes subtle and elusive. That is why the Word instructs is to, Stay alert. The Devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping. Keep your guard up. (1 Peter 5:8 MSG)

There is nothing on this earth I treasure more than my family. And I will protect and guard it at all costs.

Secret number four, your husband needs to feel treasured and protected by you.

Let him know he is.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Awesome analogies